World Childless Week 2018 – Men Matter Too – In September 2018, World Childless Week included a whole day of programming for childless men called Men Matter Too where you can read blogs, articles and videos created by and for childless men. World Childless Week will take place for the 3rd year in 2019 from 16th-22nd September www.WorldChildlessWeek.net
Academic research into issues of male childlessness
- Dr Robin Hadley is the UK’s leading academic in the area of male involuntary childlessness. You can follow him on Twitter and read this interview with him in Daily Telegraph ‘I know all about broody men, I am one’.
He also took part in very moving audio story by Viv Oyolu A Discussion on the Journey Through Childlessness featuring two men and two women which offers a very rare insight into the male experience of childlessness.
Podcast interview: Male & Childless Not by Choice
Paper: The lived experience of older involuntarily childless men:http://bit.ly/2rZL1u5
Paper: Involuntarily childless men and the desire for fatherhood: http://bit.ly/
His website is: http://www.robinhadley.co.uk/
Support groups for childless men
- The Clan of Brothers – a closed Facebook group created and moderated by Michael Hughes and Andy Harrod
- World Childless Week offers support for both men and women: https://worldchildlessweek.net/home/
- Dovecote for Men: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1558482934478197/
- Gareth Down runs a support group for infertile men and men going through infertility treatments on Facebook – it has several hundred men-only members: https://www.facebook.com/groups/mensfertilitysupport/ and you can also find him on Twitter @Gsdown86
- Mensfe – this is run by a man called Pip O’Rielly. It is for men pre, during, or post, male infertility issues http://www.mensfe.net/forum/
- MoreToLife is a support group for men/women/couples after unsuccessful infertility treatments http://www.
Articles about the male experience of childlessness
- Childless at 52: How sweet it would be to be called Dad. By Declan Fitzsimmons for The Guardian
- The male infertility crisis: ‘My failure at fatherhood ate away at my very being’
- The Untold Grief of Childless Men
- The Agony of Being a Childless Man
- Netdoctor blog:’Think men don’t get broody? Believe me, that’s a myth’!
- What is a Man?
- Men and Infertility, The Times, 16 July 2016
- The agony of being a childless man: Women have talked for years about the longing for a baby. Now would-be dads are sharing their pain
- “It’s like taking a bit of masculinity away from you”: towards a theoretical understanding of men’s experiences of infertility.
- ‘The Pater’ Tells a Story of Childlessness from the Rare Male Perspective
- It’s Not Just Women who are Ostracised for Being Childless
- Why do we never worry about men’s childlessness and infertility?
- They Call You ‘Eunuch’: Constant Pressure for Men to Bear Children
- There’s a pressure on men, too, to be a ‘proper man’ and deliver a child
- Gateway Women, on Solo Street
- A round-up of resources for childless men on Father’s Day by Walk in Our Shoes
- Sheridan Voysey’s guest blog for Gateway Women on ‘Father’s Day for the Non Father’
- Jim Biles, the other half of Sarah Lawrence from After the Storm on how men grieve too on Father’s Day
- Childless Men on Father’s Day – by LifeWithoutBaby
- For the childless and parentless this Father’s Day (and those who love them)
- Dr Robin Hadley’s guest blog for Gateway Women on ‘Coping with Father’s Day as a Childless Man’
Blogs by childless men
- Married & Childless – written from both the male and female perspective
- Few Pieces Missing from Normalcy: An Infertile Man’s Perspective
- From “Slow Swimmers & Fried Eggs” (by a childless couple) these from Eric:
Books about male childlessness
- Glenn Barden (2014). My Little Soldiers.
A novel which tells a bittersweet romantic comedy about male infertility.
- Eds. Lynne van Luven and Bruce Gillespie (2008). Nobody’s Father: Life Without Kids.
Canada, BC: Touchwood Editions.
This book contains 25 first-person essays from men without children; some by choice, many by chance. It is a rare glimpse into the way that men experience childlessness and precious for that.
- Sheridan Voysey (2013). Resurrection Year: Turning Broken Dreams into New Beginnings.
USA: Thomas Nelson.
A memoir about the year-long sabbatical that Sheridan and his wife took in Europe as they attempt to draw a line under ten years of failed infertility treatments. This is an excellent book for couples grieving childlessness to, although those who do not share the author’s Christian faith may find it heavy going at times (but still worthwhile!)
- Sheridan Voysey (2019). The Making of Us: Who We Can Become when Life Doesn’t Go As Planned
UK: W Publishing
Picking up where Resurrection Year: Turning Broken Dreams Into New Beginnings left off, Sheridan helps us process what we can learn about our identities in the face of disappointment and change. Life had not gone according to plan for Sheridan Voysey and his wife, Merryn. When infertility ended their dream of becoming parents, they uprooted their lives and relocated from Australia to Oxford, England, so Merryn could pursue her professional goals. But the move meant Sheridan had to give up his well-established career in Christian radio, and though he was experiencing some success as a writer, he couldn’t reconcile his expectations for his life with the reality he was living. Lost and directionless, he came to a sobering realization: I don’t know who I am. Following the example of many a seeker, Sheridan decided to pair his spiritual journey with a literal one: a hundred-mile pilgrimage along the northeast coast of England. Inspired by the life and influence of the monk Cuthbert, who was among the first to evangelize northern England in the 600s, Voysey and his friend DJ travelled on foot from the Holy Island of Lindisfarne to Durham, where the famed Lindisfarne Gospels were on display. What makes us who we are? What shapes our hopes and dreams, and how do we adjust when things don’t go as we hoped? Can we recover if we make a choice that’s less than perfect? Voysey tackles these questions and others as he deftly weaves together Cuthbert’s story, the history of early Christianity in England, and his own struggle to find his identity and purpose. His introspective writing leads readers to consider their own stories and reflect on how God calls each of us to an identity bigger than any earthly role or career. Part travel memoir, part pilgrim’s journal, The Making of Us is a quiet story including a chapter-by-chapter reflection guide of trust in God’s leading for our lives, no matter where our paths take us.
- Nicolette De Ridder, and Nick W. (2013) Just The Two of Us: Giving New Meaning to Our Lives Through Dealing with Infertility. UK: Epubli.
This book is about coping with infertility as a couple. The authors went through a variety of fertility tests and treatments including IVF and ICSI. After six years they pulled the plug and decided it was time to move on and lead a life not ruled by planning around cycles, hormones and fertility attempts. They both wanted their normal lives back but found it hard to grieve over a loss that was not tangible. In this book they both talk openly about all their fertility treatments, coping strategies, adoption procedure, giving up hope of having a family, grieving process and eventually their acceptance of infertility. This book tells the story from both a female and male perspective. bit.ly/11IhTC7