If you’re childless by circumstance, with those circumstances ranging from infertility through to all kinds of situations such as your partner not wanting (more) children, a chronic illness, not being able to find a partner (what is now known as ‘social infertility’), not being able to afford having a baby ‘on your own’ (and not being all that keen about being a solo mother either), thinking you didn’t want children and then realising you did, your relationship breaking down during fertility treatments or perhaps one of at least ’50 Ways Not To Be A Mother’ that I write about in my book…
You’re in the right place.
Or perhaps you’re still hopeful of becoming a mother but the needle on your fertility clock has been in the red for a while and things are looking scarily like you too are going to ‘end up’ as ‘one of those freakish, twisted, bitter women without children’… (we’re not like that actually – that’s Snow White and Cruella de Vil you’re thinking of.)
Welcome. Pull up a chair. Get a cup of tea or something stronger and make yourself comfortable. Things are just about to get a whole lot easier.
Read the blogs and articles on subjects close to our heart – from coping with the changing nature of your friendships, dealing with Christmas, the daft ‘advice’ people give us, being lumbered with all the weekend shifts at work, worrying about getting old without children and dealing with &*%ing baby showers, etc. You can also use the ‘search’ box at the top right hand side of the screen (if you’re on a computer) to find what you need right now.
Join our fabulous private online Community A supportive, intelligent, friendly, compassionate, private online community of women like us from all over the world who ‘get’ what it’s like to be a childless woman in our motherhood-obsessed world. As one of our members described it: Support for the hard stuff; enthusiasm for the good stuff. If you’re feeling isolated and the ‘odd one out’ joining this Community will be the beginning of a new outlook as well as new online and offline friends. We like to think of it as our own ‘school gates’ network. It’s free for the first month and then free/modest fee thereafter. As well as our ‘main’ community, once you are a member you’ll have access to our other communities too, including a reading group for those working their way through Jody’s book.
Come to a Gateway Women Reignite Weekend – the life-changing, friend-making, taboo-busting weekend workshop. Click here for a list of currently scheduled workshops. And if you want to know more about what happens at one of these weekends (rather than whatever worrying notion you’re worrying yourself with!) read more about what really happens here. In 2018 we will be running more of these across the UK, Ireland, The Netherlands, Belgium, USA & Canada – so do stay tuned and join our update list here to be sure you hear about one when it’s announced near you.
Join our free, private, global social groups organised via Meetup – we have groups for UK & Ireland, Europe, USA, Australia, NZ, Canada and South Africa. To join a group, first you need to join meetup.com (if you’re not already a member) and then apply to join the Gateway Women country group nearest to you (click the links of countries above, or further down the page). Memberships have to be approved by Gateway Women before they are accepted so you’ll find that they are safe, friendly and private. Individual gatherings are member-organised so if there isn’t something happening in a town or city near you, as a member you can suggest and host one. It’s not as scary as it might sound and we’re happy to support and advise you to help get it going.
Watch the video interviews with inspiring childless women from around the world in the ‘Talking About Childlessness’ series. One of the thing that helps enormously in dealing with involuntary childlessness can be hearing other women’s stories. These interviews are a chance to eavesdrop on conversations between two women who’d recovered from their childlessness and have moved on in ways that are uniquely meaningful to them. It seems that the media is still stuck on shaming, untrue and unhelpful stereotypes such as the ‘selfish’ childfree women and ‘foolish’ childless ones. These interviews reveal some of the complex, messy and uplifting truth instead.
Listen, watch & read some of the interviews and articles which have featured Jody and Gateway Women including: The Guardian, Woman’s Hour, BBC News, BBC World Service, Radio 5 Live, Psychologies Magazine, Prospect UK Magazine, Sunrise TV (AUS), The Daily Mail, Huffington Post, The Sunday Times, The Sunday Times Style Magazine, The Irish Independent, The Irish Times, Woman’s Own, The Sunday Mirror…
Come and hear Jody speak: Jody will be speaking at various events (both online and offline) in 2018. These tend to sell out very quickly so do take a look and book soon. And if you’d like Jody to speak at your event, or be a guest on your podcast or online summit, do get in touch.
Sign up for Gateway Women Updates and be the first to hear news, event and updates of interest to childless women worldwide, as well as to be the first to know when new workshops and events open for booking (they sell out very quickly). Don’t worry, I won’t share your details or take over your in-box – I can’t stand it when people do that to me and frankly until the cat learns to type I simply don’t have the time!
Welcome to Gateway Women. It’s the club you never wanted to join, but once you’ve got the support you need to get through your grief and out of your isolation, life starts getting fun again
(Yes, I used the “F” word).
Do you struggle with being childless? Would you like to find a way to make peace with your situation today and look forward to your future again? Come to one of our weekend workshops and experience a safe, friendly and judgement-free space to heal and move forward with your life. Click here to check our calendar and see when the next one is happening near you. And click here to find out more about what happens on a Reignite Weekend
USA: Princeton (New Jersey)
USA: Baton Rouge (Louisiana)
UK: Luton (Women of Colour Weekend)
CANADA: Ontario (Toronto)
USA: Portland (Oregon)
EU: Belgium (Brussels)