If you’re childless by circumstance, with those circumstances ranging from infertility through to all kinds of situations such as your partner not wanting (more) children, a chronic illness, not being able to find a partner (what is now known as ‘social infertility’), not being able to afford having a baby ‘on your own’ (and not being all that keen about being a solo mother either), thinking you didn’t want children and then realising you did, your relationship breaking down during fertility treatments or perhaps one of at least 50 Ways Not To Be A Mother…
You’re in the right place.
Or perhaps you’re still hopeful of becoming a mother but the needle on your fertility clock has been in the red for a while and things are looking scarily like you too are going to ‘end up’ as ‘one of those freakish, twisted, bitter women without children’… (we’re not like that, that’s Snow White and Cruella de Vil you’re thinking of)
Welcome. Pull up a chair. Get a cup of tea or something stronger and make yourself comfortable. Things are just about to get a whole lot easier.
Read the blogs and articles on subjects close to our heart – from coping with the changing nature of your friendships, dealing with Christmas, the daft ‘advice’ people give us, being lumbered with all the weekend shifts at work, worrying about getting old without children and dealing with &*%ing baby showers, etc.
Watch the video interviews with inspiring childless women from around the world in the ‘Talking About Childlessness’ series. One of the thing that helps enormously in dealing with involuntary childlessness can be hearing other women’s stories. These interviews are a chance to eavesdrop on conversations between two women who’d recovered from their childlessness and have moved on in ways that are uniquely meaningful to them. It seems that the media is still stuck on shaming, untrue and unhelpful stereotypes such as the ‘selfish’ childfree women and ‘foolish’ childless ones. These interviews reveal some of the complex, messy and uplifting truth instead.
Join our fabulous private online Community A supportive, intelligent, friendly, compassionate, private online community of women like us from all over the world who ‘get’ what it’s like to be a childless woman in our motherhood-obsessed world. As one of our members described it: Support for the hard stuff; enthusiasm for the good stuff. If you’re feeling isolated and the ‘odd one out’ joining this Community will be the beginning of a new outlook as well as new online and offline friends. We like to think of it as our own ‘school gates’ network. Join in our member-organised events from Manchester to Melbourne, from Texas to Tunbridge Wells! It’s free for the first month and then free/paid subscriptions available thereafter.
Find out more about Gateway Women workshops and events – our life-changing, friend-making, taboo-busting and unique workshops, retreats, talks, meetups and online events. Women from all over the world fly in to attend these workshops, so if you’re in the UK, what’s keeping you?
Join our free, private, global social groups organised via Meetup - we have groups for UK & Ireland, Europe, USA, Australia, NZ, Canada and South Africa. To join a group, first you need to join meetup.com (if you’re not already a member) and then apply to join the country group nearest to you. Memberships have to be approved by Gateway Women before they are accepted so you’ll find that they are safe, friendly and private. Individual gatherings are member-organised so if there isn’t something happening in a town or city near you, as a member you can suggest and host one. It’s not as scary as it might sound and I’m happy to advise if you’re new to it as you get going.
Listen, watch & read some of the interviews and articles which have featured Jody and Gateway Women including: The Guardian, Woman’s Hour, BBC News, BBC World Service, Radio 5 Live, Psychologies Magazine, Prospect UK Magazine, Sunrise TV (AUS), The Daily Mail, Huffington Post, The Sunday Times, The Sunday Times Style Magazine, The Irish Independent, The Irish Times, Woman’s Own, The Sunday Mirror…
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Welcome to Gateway Women. It’s the club you never wanted to join, but once you’ve got the support you need to get through your grief and out of your isolation, life starts getting fun again
(Yes, I used the “F” word).
WORKSHOPS, RETREATS, TALKS & EVENTS 2016
Fertility Fest 2016: Birmingham Saturday 28th May & London Saturday 11th June 2016
What happens when IVF isn’t successful; what are going to be the effects of this science on future generations; and how far as a society are we prepared to go to in our pursuit of parenthood? Jody will be speaking on both days at Fertility Fest 2016, the first event of its kind in the UK.
Tickets £35 per day
The Summer Reignite Weekend (London): Saturday 9th & Sunday 10th July 2016
There is life after childlessness, despite what the media, your friends, your mother and your inner bitch would have you believe! A meaningful and fulfilling life that makes sense to you because you custom-made it for yourself. Both partnered and solo childless women welcome.
Earlybird £275 by 1st June : £295 after 1st June : £50 to book
USA: LOS ANGELES
The Pasadena Reignite Weekend: Saturday 23rd & Sunday 24th July 2016
@ The Pasadena Playhouse, 39 S. El Molino Avenue, Pasadena, CA 91101
Both partnered and solo childless women welcome
Earlybird £295 by 1st May : £350 after 1st May : £100 deposit to book
50% full – book soon!
USA: SAN FRANCISCO
RETREAT: Reigniting Your Wild Heart
Petaluma, Sonoma County, California
Thursday 4th August to Saturday 6th August
An equine retreat collaboration with Christine Erickson of The Mother Within
2 day retreat: $1195 + lodgings (book with a $500 deposit)
Already one-third full – book soon!
Autumn Solo Reignite Weekend (London): Saturday 24th & Sunday 25th September 2016
A weekend to explore and empower single, childless women
to heal their hearts and embrace their futures.
£295 Earlybird by 24th July : £345 after 24th July : £50 deposit to book
Sat 29th & Sun 30th October, Solihull, Birmingham.
Tickets are £150 for the whole weekend and includes lunch and refreshments on both days, all speakers and materials for the creative workshop. I’m proud to be the keynote speaker on Saturday 29th with my talk “Who’s Afraid of the Crazy Cat Lady”. This event is being organised by one of us, for us – please book your ticket ASAP to show your support and see you there!
Winter Reignite Weekend (London): Saturday 12th & Sunday 13th November 2016
There is life after childlessness, despite what the media, your friends, your mother and your inner bitch would have you believe! A meaningful and fulfilling life that makes sense to you because you custom-made it for yourself. Both solo and partnered childless women welcome.
£295 Earlybird by 12th September : £345 after 12th September : £50 deposit to book