There is life after childlessness, despite what the media, your friends, your mother and your inner bitch would have you believe! A meaningful and fulfilling life that makes sense to you because you custom-made it for yourself.
This Gateway Women Reignite Weekend is for you if you’re:
- A woman who wanted to have children but it didn’t work out for any reason: infertility, didn’t meet partner, partner didn’t want (more) children, chronic illness, badly timed breakup, etc, etc… There are so many ways this can happen…
- Struggling with relationships with friends and family as ‘the odd one out’
- Wondering where your mojo went and where the hell to start looking for it!
- Lonely and confused about your place in society when all you can see around you are mothers and families…
- Knowing that you need to make some changes to your life but feeling too tired, sad & uninspired to know what to try next…
- Worried about growing old without children…
- Furious that you ‘did all the right things’ and have ‘ended up’ like this!
This Reignite Weekend is led by Cathy Vivian, who has been trained personally by Jody Day, the Founder of Gateway Women.
Cathy is 54 and lives in Hinkley, Leicestershire with her husband and cat. Childless herself due to long term singleness and a chronic health condition during her last fertile years, Cathy attended her first Reignite Weekend with Jody in London in 2015 and has since been become a very active member of Gateway Women, both on and offline. She regularly organises a local Gateway Women meetup group in her area, and provided logistical and admin support for the first UK NOMO Conference that took place in October 2016. After chronic health issues led to early retirement from her business life, Cathy retrained as a Bowen Technique practitioner and uses this, and other modalities, to support those in chronic pain. In 2017, Cathy trained with Jody to become licensed as a ‘GW Sister’ to help spread the life-changing healing & sisterhood of the Reignite Weekend further afield.
You can contact Cathy directly on: firstname.lastname@example.org
As Cathy writes: Joining Gateway Women has been a truly wonderful and life-affirming experience for me. I feel I have a safe place to be now, with many other women there who can understand my story. I have no doubt that many of the friendships I have made are for life and will sustain me. The Reignite Weekend has been a founding part of helping me heal the grief of childlessness and I am so looking forward to sharing this experience with you.
Over the course of the Reignite Weekend you will:
- Unpick the assumptions that the culture has about motherhood (and non-motherhood) and let go of what doesn’t ‘fit’ you.
- Look at where you are holding onto unhelpful ideas and shame about the the life choices you’ve made (and the non-choices too) which have led you to ‘ending up’ without the family you hoped for.
- Explore and express unresolved grief about your childlessness; grief which our culture neither acknowledges, understands nor allows (and consequently neither do we, sometimes).
- Reexamine the dreams and goals you had for your life before you became convinced that having a baby was the only thing that mattered.
- Reignite your passion for your life, and and start thinking what your ‘Plan B’ might be for a meaningful and fulfilling life without children.
- Meet your new tribe – the wonderful, powerful, wise and funny Nomos (not-mothers). There are more of us than you realise and we’re not the bunch of ‘weeping weirdoes’ you might fear! In fact, we’re a pretty amazing and courageous bunch of women…
After the workshop and into the future
The bonds that are made during the Reignite Weekend are very special and most women wish to take those friendships forward as they integrate the learning and healing from the weekend into their daily lives. As many of us have experienced, one of the unexpected and unsettling side effects of unchosen childlessness is that we may lose the easy connection we once had with a large part of our peer group as our friends move to a country called ‘motherhood’ where we can’t follow and will never fully speak the language. Having new Nomo (not-mother) friends to plug the gap can make coping with our situation not only more tolerable, but actually fun again! It also makes it easier to keep our friendships going with our ‘mum friends’ because we’re not so bent out of shape with a combination of resentment, jealousy and boredom around them… As the weekend draws to a close, Cathy will facilitate ways to organise ongoing contact with each other, should you wish that.
More details and to book
- When: Saturday 24th & Sunday 25th June 2017
- Times: 9.30am – 5pm
- Cost: £220 Earlybird (by 28th May), £250 full price after. Places bookable with £50 deposit (which also reserves the Earlybird price, if received on or before 28th May). All balances due on/before 1st June. Once you have reserved your place, Cathy will be in touch to arrange your payment method – either PayPal or direct bank transfer. If you wish to contact Cathy about payment methods please email her directly at email@example.com Click here to book
- Lunch & Breaks: A simple lunch of either quiche or soup plus salad (cost £5) will be served in the Cotesbach Educational Trust Cafe (pictured above) which will be available for our exclusive use over the weekend. Please let Cathy know if you wish to be catered for and if you have any dietary restrictions. You can also bring a packed lunch if you prefer. We’ll also take a morning and afternoon break of 15 mins at which tea & coffee will be provided.
- Where: The Old Schoolhouse, The Cotesbach Educational Trust, Main Street, Cotesbach, Leicestershire, LE17 4HX, UK. Tel: 01455 558373 www.cotesbachschoolhouse.org.uk
- Directions & Parking: The workshop takes place in ‘The Old Schoolhouse’ which is part of The Cotesbach Educational Trust, Main Street, Cotesbach, Leicestershire, LE17 4HX, UK. The Cotesbach Educational Trust is easy to find, located within a few minutes drive of a number of major road networks: M1 – Junction 20; M6 – Junction 1. Just off the A426 travelling south from Lutterworth turn right at the first turn for Cotesbach – look out for our signs. CET buildings are on the left hand side as you drive in the main entrance. Please be aware the drive is a one way system.
- Accommodation: Accommodation suggestions if you wish to stay near the workshop in the £35-70 range per night (in order of cost) are:
Various Airbnb’s around Rugby https://www.airbnb.co.uk/
Travelodge (Lutterworth) https://www.travelodge.co.uk/hotels/291/Lutterworth-hotel
Best Western Ullesthorpe Court Hotel (with pool and spa) http://www.bw-ullesthorpecourt.co.uk/
Premier Inn, Rugby http://www.premierinnhotels.co.uk/rugby-premier-inn-hotels.php
Greyhound Coaching Inn (Lutterworth) https://www.greyhoundinn.co.uk/
- Disabled Access: The venue has one disabled parking space and disabled access. For any specific access questions, please contact firstname.lastname@example.org
- How to book: Click here to book
- How Many Women: In order to create an intimate and safe atmosphere, the workshop is restricted to 12 women only.
- Who is the Reignite Weekend for? Women of any age, partnered or solo, who wanted to have children and for some reason, it didn’t work out. If you’re keen to move forward and create a meaningful and fulfilling life without biological children, it’s for you.
- Any other questions please contact GW Sister Cathy Vivian directly: email@example.com. Alternatively, you can contact GWs Community Manager, Helen: firstname.lastname@example.org or Jody herself on email@example.com
Some feedback from women who’ve taken part in previous Reignite Weekends:
It was such a supportive and brilliant course – so great to meet and share time with other Gateway Women, and it allowed me to challenge myself and see my way forward to my Plan B. (Tilly, 48)
I can’t describe the massively positive effect finding GW and attending a Reignite Weekend has had on my outlook, my life, my relationships, my ability to smile at babies and their mums again! (Kate, 43)
After getting to a very low point I thought I’d try the workshop. It was a great weekend. Just having the chance to think and explore my feelings with likeminded people was so helpful. (Leila, 39)
The course was excellent; well structured, clear and relevant and which helped me to understand the trauma I’ve been struggling though after finding out that we can’t have children. I met some amazing women on the course whose stories of facing difficulties with so much dignity and courage will stay with me. Thank you for giving me hope. (Janet, 47)
I attended the Reignite Weekend and I wholeheartedly recommend it. If you are feeling unsure about whether to go, I would say definitely do it. You will be in safe hands and in a very safe environment, sharing with other Gateway Women really helps and the exercises really get you thinking – in a good way. (Laura, 42)
I have been stuck in grief for a long time that hasn’t been shifting. [The weekend] helped me to understand exactly what I was feeling and why. Home now – I feel lighter, more positive and more gentle inside than I have felt for ages (Becky, 52)
It was amazing to realise I wasn’t alone, other women shared the pain, anguish, fear that I did, each with their unique story and each wanting their life to move on, but not sure how or where. I took the plunge and signed up for the workshop not knowing what to expect, or if it “was my sort of thing” – and it was the best thing I could have done. (Kristian, 42)
I attended this weekend with some ‘butterflies’ but it’s ended up being one of the best things I could have done. I’m more equipped than before I attended the event for moving on and getting to grips with my plan B. Best thing though was meeting the other Gateway Women and seeing I’m not alone… (Faye, 41)