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Since I created the Gateway Women Reignite Weekend in 2012, it’s helped thousands of childless women shift the way they experience their childlessness. So what’s so special about it? And how might it help you?

Well, first of all, let me go back in time to 2012… I was still in my own early days of recovery from childlessness and this blog was just one year old. Being around families and children was incredibly painful for me and many days my grief felt so familiar that I presumed this might just be what being middle-aged felt like! I struggled to get up in the mornings, my career had stalled, my friendships were in free-fall, my marriage was over, my romantic life was a disaster and the only thing that seemed to give me any pleasure at all was cake and red wine…

I think that should I ever write an autobiography I’ll call that time, ‘The Carbohydrate Years’!

The idea that I had something to offer other childless women, that I had any kind of ‘wisdom’ to impart was laughable to me!  However, having been part of a 12-Step program called Al-Anon (for friends and family of alcoholics and addicts) I had experienced first-hand the power of peer-to-peer healing, no experts needed – in the ‘rooms’ we all had more expertise in the issue that you’d ever want… As a member of Al-Anon I’d help organise meetings (members take turns to do so) and I found that it was a kind of leadership I felt OK with because it wasn’t about me, it was about ‘us’. I wasn’t expected to have all the answers, none of us were – we were just a group of strangers brought together because we were each struggling with different versions of the same awful situation. We learned that just by being there for each other, by giving each other the gift of our full attention as we listened to each other’s stories whilst withholding judgement, comment and advice, healing could happen. Change could happen. It was this experience that gave me the nerve to believe that if I could create a robust structure within a confidential and safe space, childless women could help each other heal too.

That first Reignite Weekend had nine participants but it felt like a football stadium of people to me! I was terrified that I’d bitten off more than I could chew but, emboldened by the courage and determination of the women sitting around me, I got through it; we got through it. I’m still in touch with many of those pioneering women six years later and their lives have continued to unfold in positive (and surprising) ways, which they attest grew out of the new direction their lives took that weekend.

At the end of the first Reignite Weekend in 2012. Learned a lot since then, including that we’d need better chairs!

So what is the Reignite Weekend?

The Reignite Weekend is a mixture of truth-telling and deep emotional healing, of challenging new ideas and taboo-busting discussions, of sisterhood and friendship, creativity and kindness, empathy and recognition.

Yes, there are a few tears, but they are healing tears, tears of connection, rather than the tears of silent despair so many of us have sobbed in private over the years. And many of them are tears of laughter too, of being understood — finally.

The content and experience of the weekend has the capacity to create the framework you need to start thinking and acting differently in your life. To begin to take pride in your identity as a woman again. It gives you the tools and the companions you need to start creating your ‘Plan B’ – a meaningful and fulfilling future without children. On Saturday we look at the present and the past; on Sunday we look at the present and the future. The friendships and connections that are made on this weekend are lasting ones too – some participants from each weekend continue to meet up at regular ‘Reignite Reunions’, and deep, soul-sustaining friendships have been formed. This weekend really does change lives.

One of the unexpected collateral losses of childlessness is the way it affects our friendship group, so the power of having a new ‘tribe’ cannot be underestimated. When my own friendship group was in free fall, I presumed that I was just rubbish at friendships; I had no idea how common this experience is. Childlessness can rip apart those relationships that form the structure of our lives: within our family of origin, our old friendships, our colleagues, our intimate partners and ourselves. The Reignite Weekend can be an important step towards changing that for the better.

Having worked personally with over a thousand women, and seen again and again how this weekend changes lives, I wanted to create a way for more of you to experience its power and the magic. And so in 2017 I started to train others to lead it. So far, I’ve trained several GWS (Gateway Women Sisters) and they’ve gone on to deliver several successful Reignite Weekends in the UK and USA (although for tax/insurance reasons, we’re no longer able to offer them in the USA). The feedback from the women who attended these workshops shows that the Reignite Weekend, in safe, well-trained hands, continues to deliver a powerful, safe and fun way to move forward with your childlessness.

I know that for many of you, there will be an understandable desire to ‘do the Reignite Weekend with Jody’ but I want to remind you that the healing doesn’t come from the facilitator – it comes from the process, it comes from the group; ultimately it comes from YOU. Those of us who lead these weekends are there to open the door for you, it’s up to you to step through it.

My mission for Gateway Women is to help as many childless women as possible. And that doesn’t just mean in my lifetime. I want to create a safe space for personal healing (the Reignite Weekend) as well as a global friendship and support network (Gateway Women) that will both change the experience of childlessness for each of us, and for the generation of childless women that will follow us. It’s time for the childless liberation movement.

Exercise at the Reignite Weekend

I don’t write about the workshops here very often, so if you’d like to know more about when one is happening near you, the best way to do so would be to sign up for my monthly update email. Don’t worry, I’m not one of those people who sends out loads of emails – you don’t have the time to read them and I don’t have the time to write them!  You can also check the workshop calendar here for those coming up soon.

And until then, I’d like to introduce you to some of the exceptional women that I’ve had the pleasure of getting to know over the last few years, each of whom I’ve invited to do the training with me to lead the Reignite Weekends in the UK and Benelux. I know it’s a REALLY big deal to attend the weekend; they do too, and each of them talks about what it was like for them to pluck up the courage to book, let alone to attend!

With hugs and in sisterhood,




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