There is life after childlessness, despite what the media, your friends, your mother and your inner bitch would have you believe! A meaningful and fulfilling life that makes sense to you because you custom-made it for yourself.
This Gateway Women Reignite Weekend is for you if you’re:
- A woman who wanted to have children but it didn’t work out for you for some reason (infertility, didn’t meet partner, partner didn’t want (more children), chronic illness, badly timed breakup, etc, etc…)
- Struggling with relationships with friends and family as ‘the odd one out’
- Wondering where your mojo went and where the hell to start looking for it!
- Lonely and confused about your place in society when all you can see around you are mothers and families…
- Knowing that you need to make some changes to your life but feeling too tired, sad & uninspired to know that to try next…
- Worried about growing old without children…
- Furious that you ‘did all the right things’ and have ‘ended up’ like this!
This Reignite Weekend is led by Kelly Brandt, who has been trained personally by Jody Day, the Founder of Gateway Women.
Kelly is 44 and lives in Southern California with her husband and chihuahua. Childless herself due to infertility and early-term loss, Kelly went all the way to the UK in 2014 to attend a Gateway Women workshop, which had such a profoundly positive impact on her own recovery from childlessness that she wanted this work to be available in the USA. She has since qualified as a Certified Grief and Bereavement Facilitator (Glendale Adventist Hospital training) and also co-facilitated a Reignite Weekend jointly with Jody in Pasadena in the summer of 2016. Kelly is passionate about helping other childless women work through their grief and wants to show that a full and rich life after childlessness is indeed possible. Contact Kelly directly: email@example.com
This weekend is for women of any age who are reluctantly coming to terms with the fact that it is no longer possible for them to have a biological child. It has been designed to introduce you to a radically new and liberating way to view your childlessness, and to open you up to the possibility of a happy and fulfilling future without children.
Over the course of the Reignite Weekend you will:
- Unpick the assumptions that the culture has about motherhood (and non-motherhood) and let go of what doesn’t ‘fit’ you
- Look at where you are holding onto unhelpful ideas and shame about the the life choices you’ve made (and the non-choices too) which have led you to ‘ending up’ without the family you hoped for
- Explore and express unresolved grief about your childlessness which our culture neither acknowledges, understands or allows (and consequently neither do we, sometimes)
- Reexamine the dreams and goals you had for your life before you became convinced that having a baby was the only thing that mattered
- Reignite your passion for your life, and and start thinking what your ‘Plan B’ is for a meaningful and fulfilling life without children
- Meet your new tribe – the wonderful, powerful, wise and funny NoMos (not-mothers). There are more of us than we realise!
After the workshop and into the future
The bonds that are made during the Reignite Weekend are very special and most women wish to take those friendships forward as they integrate the learning and healing from the weekend into their daily lives. As many of us have experienced, one of the unexpected and unsettling side effects of unchosen childlessness is that we may lose a large part of our friendship group as our friends move to a country called ‘motherhood’ where we can’t follow and will never fully speak the language. Having new NoMo friends to plug the gap can make coping with our situation not just more tolerable, but actually fun again! It also makes it easier to keep our friendships going with our ‘mum friends’ because we’re not so bend out of shape with a combination of resentment, jealousy and boredom! As the weekend draws to a close, Kelly will facilitate ways to organise ongoing contact with each other, should you wish that.
More details and to book
- When: Saturday February 25th & Sunday 26th, 2017
- Times: 9.30am – 5pm
- Cost: $325.00 Earlybird (before January 1), $375 full price. Places bookable with $100 deposit. Once you have booked your place you can use PayPal to send your deposit/balance to firstname.lastname@example.org If you wish to contact Kelly about payment methods please email her directly at email@example.com
- Lunch & Breaks: Lunch will be provided. You are welcome to bring your own lunch as well, especially if you have dietary restrictions. We’ll also take a morning and afternoon break of 15 mins.
- Where: Curtin House, Fenyes Estate at Pasadena Museum of History. Enter at 160 N Orange Grove (nearest to the Curtin House) or from 470 W. Walnut St., Pasadena, California 91103
- Directions & Parking: You can park on Kensington Place which is nearer to the Curtin House or on W. Walnut St and walk up through the gardens to the Curtin House.
- Accommodation: Accommodation suggestions – hotels nearest the work shop venue are:
-Courtyard Los Angeles Pasadena/Old Town &-Residence Inn Los Angeles Pasadena/Old Town(both hotels are run by Marriott)Or-Dusit2 Hotel Constance PasadenaThis hotel is more modern in style and a bit further from the venue but the hotel provides transportation.
- Disabled Access: The venue has disabled access, for specific questions about access please contact firstname.lastname@example.org
- How to book: click here
- How Many Women: Maximum of 12 women
- Who is the Reignite Weekend for? Women of any age, partnered or solo, who wanted to have children and for some reason, it didn’t work out. If you’re keen to move forward and create a meaningful and fulfilling life without biological children, it’s for you.
- Any other questions please contact the local facilitator, Kelly Brandt, directly: email@example.com or in the UK contact our community co-ordinator Helen: firstname.lastname@example.org or Jody on email@example.com
This is the beautiful venue for the Reignite Weekend Workshop
Some feedback from women who’ve taken part in previous Reignite Weekends in the UK:
It was such a supportive and brilliant course – so great to meet and share time with other Gateway Women, and it allowed me to challenge myself and see my way forward to my Plan B. (Tilly, 48)
I can’t describe the massively positive effect finding GW and attending a Reignite Weekend has had on my outlook, my life, my relationships, my ability to smile at babies and their mums again! (Kate, 43)
After getting to a very low point I thought I’d try the workshop. It was a great weekend. Just having the chance to think and explore my feelings with likeminded people was so helpful. (Leila, 39)
The course was excellent; well structured, clear and relevant and which helped me to understand the trauma I’ve been struggling though after finding out that we can’t have children. I met some amazing women on the course whose stories of facing difficulties with so much dignity and courage will stay with me. Thank you for giving me hope. (Janet, 47)
I attended the Reignite Weekend and I wholeheartedly recommend it. If you are feeling unsure about whether to go, I would say definitely do it. You will be in safe hands and in a very safe environment, sharing with other Gateway Women really helps and the exercises really get you thinking – in a good way. (Laura, 42)
I have been stuck in grief for a long time that hasn’t been shifting. [The weekend] helped me to understand exactly what I was feeling and why. Home now – I feel lighter, more positive and more gentle inside than I have felt for ages (Becky, 52)
It was amazing to realise I wasn’t alone, other women shared the pain, anguish, fear that I did, each with their unique story and each wanting their life to move on, but not sure how or where. I took the plunge and signed up for the workshop not knowing what to expect, or if it “was my sort of thing” and it was the best thing I could have done. (Kristian, 42)
I attended this weekend with some ‘butterflies’ but it’s ended up being one of the best things I could have done. I’m more equipped than before I attended the event for moving on and getting to grips with my plan B. Best thing though was meeting the other Gateway Women and seeing I’m not alone… (Faye, 41)