FACILITATED BY LICENCED GW SISTER: LIANE PRESTON
There is life after childlessness, despite what the media, your friends, your mother and your inner bitch would have you believe! A meaningful and fulfilling life that makes sense to you because you custom-made it for yourself.
This Gateway Women Reignite Weekend is for you if you’re:
- A woman who wanted to have children but it didn’t work out for any reason: infertility, didn’t meet partner, partner didn’t want (more) children, chronic illness, badly timed breakup, etc, etc… there are so many ways this can happen…
- Struggling with relationships with friends and family as ‘the odd one out’
- Wondering where your mojo went and where the hell to start looking for it!
- Lonely and confused about your place in society when all you can see around you are mothers and families…
- Knowing that you need to make some changes to your life but feeling too tired, sad & uninspired to know what to try next…
- Worried about growing old without children…
- Furious that you ‘did all the right things’ and have ‘ended up’ like this!
This Reignite Weekend is led by Liane Preston, who has been trained personally by Jody Day, the founder of Gateway Women.
Liane is 44 and lives near Edinburgh, Scotland. Having worked in the corporate world for a long time, most latterly as a Director of Human Resources, she has over fifteen years of experience in developing people. She came to believe that most of us, at some point, could benefit from professional therapeutic support in dealing with life’s curveballs, so she retrained and has for the past five years combined running a private psychotherapeutic counselling practice with corporate consulting. Her childlessness is due to a combination of factors – being a (recovered!) workaholic, not meeting her husband until she was 40, some gynaecological issues and a dance with cancer. Happily she now has the all clear and is excited about embracing a new phase of her life, which includes running the Reignite weekend and supporting other Gateway Women on their journeys towards their Plan Bs’. You can contact Liane directly at email@example.com
As Liane writes: “The support of Gateway Women has been important in helping me navigate a difficult few years in my life. I was pretty ambivalent about having children until it was almost too late and then, when I did meet the man I wanted to have a family with, life had other ideas and the last window of opportunity was used up having surgery and treatment for cancer. The Reignite Weekend helped me to reflect on my losses and further embrace the possibilities of a life without children – and I met some wonderful women through it too. In leading the Reignite Weekend for women in Scotland, I hope that you too will experience some of the power and healing that comes from exploring our situation in a safe, non-judgemental and confidential space with other women who totally ‘get’ why being childless in our motherhood-obsessed society can be so hard.”
Over the course of the Reignite Weekend you will:
- Unpick the assumptions that the culture has about motherhood (and non-motherhood) and let go of what doesn’t ‘fit’ you.
- Look at where you are holding onto unhelpful ideas and shame about the the life choices you’ve made (and the non-choices too) which have led you to ‘ending up’ without the family you hoped for.
- Explore and express unresolved grief about your childlessness; grief which our culture neither acknowledges, understands nor allows (and consequently neither do we, sometimes).
- Reexamine the dreams and goals you had for your life before you became convinced that having a baby was the only thing that mattered.
- Reignite your passion for your life, and and start thinking what your ‘Plan B’ might be for a meaningful and fulfilling life without children.
- Meet your new tribe – the wonderful, powerful, wise and funny Nomos (not-mothers). There are more of us than you realise and we’re not the bunch of ‘weeping weirdoes’ you might fear! In fact, we’re a pretty amazing and courageous bunch of women…
After the workshop and into the future
The bonds that are made during the Reignite Weekend are very special and most women wish to take those friendships forward as they integrate the learning and healing from the weekend into their daily lives. As many of us have experienced, one of the unexpected and unsettling side effects of unchosen childlessness is that we may lose the easy connection we once had with a large part of our peer group as our friends move to a country called ‘motherhood’ where we can’t follow and will never fully speak the language. Having new Nomo (not-mother) friends to plug the gap can make coping with our situation not only more tolerable, but actually fun again! It also makes it easier to keep our friendships going with our ‘mum friends’ because we’re not so bent out of shape with a combination of resentment, jealousy and boredom around them… As the weekend draws to a close, we will facilitate ways to organise ongoing contact with each other, should you wish that.
More details and to book
- When: Saturday 21st and Sunday 22nd April 2018
- Times: 9.30am – 5pm
- Cost: £295 Earlybird (by 21st March), £350 full price after. Places bookable with £125 deposit (which also reserves the Earlybird price). All balances due on/before 21st March]. Once you have reserved your place, Liane will be in touch to arrange your payment method; either PayPal or direct bank transfer, and if you wished to arrange a payment plan, you could discuss it at this point. If you wish to contact Liane about payment methods please email her directly at firstname.lastname@example.org
- Lunch & Breaks: Lunch will roughly 1-2pm both days. A soup and salad lunch can be provided for £7.50 (discuss with Liane after booking) or you can bring a packed lunch. There is a cafe on site where you can get coffee when you arrive and/or snacks. We’ll also take a morning and afternoon break of 15 mins and water/coffee/tea will be provided.
- Where: House for An Art Lover, Bellahouston Park, 10 Dumbreck Rd, Glasgow, Scotland, G41 5BW. Tel:: + 44 (0)141 353 4770 https://www.houseforanartlover.co.uk/visit/travel-information
- Disabled access: Full access to all areas including meeting rooms, cafe, bathrooms. All paths outside the house are level. Disabled parking spaces available (let us know if you need one and we will book it for you).
- Directions:House for An Art Lover is an suburb of Glasgow. It can be reached by both car and public transport. There is ample free car parking on site. For full information and directions click here.
- Accommodation: You can find private rooms from £14-50 near the venue via AirBnB. There is a Premier Inn walking distance away with rooms around £81. Alternatively, you can find good value top quality hotels in central Glasgow such as Abode Glasgow, for approx £99 per night.
- How to book: click here to book
- How Many Women: In order to create an intimate and safe atmosphere, the workshop is restricted to 12 women only.
- Who is the Reignite Weekend for? Women of any age, partnered or solo, who wanted to have children and for some reason, it didn’t work out. If you’re keen to move forward and create a meaningful and fulfilling life without biological children, it’s for you.
- What is the cancellation policy? Your £125 deposit is non refundable. If you cancel prior to 21st March you may request a refund of any payments made (minus your deposit). After that date, we can only refund your payments (minus your deposit) if we can resell your spot.
- Any other questions please contact Liane directly: email@example.com Alternatively, you can contact GWs Community Manager, Helen: firstname.lastname@example.org or Jody herself on email@example.com
Some feedback from women who’ve taken part in previous Reignite Weekends:
It was such a supportive and brilliant course – so great to meet and share time with other Gateway Women, and it allowed me to challenge myself and see my way forward to my Plan B. (Tilly, 48)
I can’t describe the massively positive effect finding GW and attending a Reignite Weekend has had on my outlook, my life, my relationships, my ability to smile at babies and their mums again! (Kate, 43)
After getting to a very low point I thought I’d try the workshop. It was a great weekend. Just having the chance to think and explore my feelings with likeminded people was so helpful. (Leila, 39)
The course was excellent; well structured, clear and relevant and which helped me to understand the trauma I’ve been struggling though after finding out that we can’t have children. I met some amazing women on the course whose stories of facing difficulties with so much dignity and courage will stay with me. Thank you for giving me hope. (Janet, 47)
I attended the Reignite Weekend and I wholeheartedly recommend it. If you are feeling unsure about whether to go, I would say definitely do it. You will be in safe hands and in a very safe environment, sharing with other Gateway Women really helps and the exercises really get you thinking – in a good way. (Laura, 42)
I have been stuck in grief for a long time that hasn’t been shifting. [The weekend] helped me to understand exactly what I was feeling and why. Home now – I feel lighter, more positive and more gentle inside than I have felt for ages (Becky, 52)
It was amazing to realise I wasn’t alone, other women shared the pain, anguish, fear that I did, each with their unique story and each wanting their life to move on, but not sure how or where. I took the plunge and signed up for the workshop not knowing what to expect, or if it “was my sort of thing” – and it was the best thing I could have done. (Kristian, 42)
I attended this weekend with some ‘butterflies’ but it’s ended up being one of the best things I could have done. I’m more equipped than before I attended the event for moving on and getting to grips with my plan B. Best thing though was meeting the other Gateway Women and seeing I’m not alone… (Faye, 41)