FACILITATED BY LICENCED GWS FACILITATOR: MELANIE ROBINSON
There is life after childlessness, despite what the media, your friends, your mother and your inner bitch would have you believe! A meaningful and fulfilling life that makes sense to you because you custom-made it for yourself.
This Gateway Women Reignite Weekend is for you if you’re:
- A woman who wanted to have children but it didn’t work out for any reason: infertility, didn’t meet partner, partner didn’t want (more) children, chronic illness, badly timed breakup, etc, etc… There are so many ways this can happen…
- Struggling with relationships with friends and family as ‘the odd one out’
- Wondering where your mojo went and where the hell to start looking for it!
- Lonely and confused about your place in society when all you can see around you are mothers and families…
- Knowing that you need to make some changes to your life but feeling too tired, sad & uninspired to know what to try next…
- Worried about growing old without children…
- Furious that you ‘did all the right things’ and have ‘ended up’ like this!
This Reignite Weekend is led by Melanie Robinson, who has been trained personally by Jody Day, the Founder of Gateway Women to be a ‘GWS Facilitator’ (Gateway Women Sister)
Melanie is 46 is divorced and single and lives in Morpeth, Northumberland. She found herself childless after she and her then husband had fertility problems and went through unsuccessful ICSI/IVF fertility treatments. She found Gateway Women after a frantic late night Google search for ‘women who don’t have children and are happy’ and attended the Reignite Weekend with Jody in London in February 2014. Despite feeling very nervous (she considered not turning up at the workshop and going shopping in London instead!) it turned out to be a turning point and the beginning of her journey out of a black hole. Since then, Melanie has been an active member of the Gateway Women online community and her local GW Meetup group. In 2017 she also took part in Jody’s one-year Plan B Mentorship Programme – The Online Bee. An actor by profession, Melanie is an experienced workshop facilitator and also has a counselling qualification. She was delighted to be asked by Jody to train with her to lead the Reignite Weekend in the North-East of England and looks forward to sharing this powerful experience with other local women. You can contact Melanie directly on firstname.lastname@example.org
As Melanie says, “I’ve found immeasurable support and friendship through my involvement in Gateway Women and it’s a privilege to have the chance to help other childless women begin their journey out of the abyss and towards a brighter future”
Over the course of the Reignite Weekend you will:
- Unpick the assumptions that the culture has about motherhood (and non-motherhood) and let go of what doesn’t ‘fit’ you.
- Look at where you are holding onto unhelpful ideas and shame about the the life choices you’ve made (and the non-choices too) which have led you to ‘ending up’ without the family you hoped for.
- Explore and express unresolved grief about your childlessness; grief which our culture neither acknowledges, understands nor allows (and consequently neither do we, sometimes).
- Reexamine the dreams and goals you had for your life before you became convinced that having a baby was the only thing that mattered.
- Reignite your passion for your life, and and start thinking what your ‘Plan B’ might be for a meaningful and fulfilling life without children.
- Meet your new tribe – the wonderful, powerful, wise and funny Nomos (not-mothers). There are more of us than you realise and we’re not the bunch of ‘weeping weirdoes’ you might fear! In fact, we’re a pretty amazing and courageous bunch of women…
After the workshop and into the future
The bonds that are made during the Reignite Weekend are very special and most women wish to take those friendships forward as they integrate the learning and healing from the weekend into their daily lives. As many of us have experienced, one of the unexpected and unsettling side effects of unchosen childlessness is that we may lose the easy connection we once had with a large part of our peer group as our friends move to a country called ‘motherhood’ where we can’t follow and will never fully speak the language. Having new Nomo (not-mother) friends to plug the gap can make coping with our situation not only more tolerable, but actually fun again! It also makes it easier to keep our friendships going with our ‘mum friends’ because we’re not so bent out of shape with a combination of resentment, jealousy and boredom around them… As the weekend draws to a close, Melanie will facilitate ways to organise ongoing contact with each other, should you wish that.
More details and to book
- When: Saturday 7th and Sunday 8th April 2018
- Times: 9.30am – 5pm
- Cost: £295 Earlybird (by 7th March), £350 full price after. Places bookable with £125 deposit (which also reserves the Earlybird price). All balances due on/before 7th March. Once you have reserved your place, Melanie will be in touch to arrange your payment method – either PayPal or direct bank transfer. If you wish to contact Melanie about payment methods please email her directly at email@example.com
- Lunch & Breaks: There are plenty of cafes, restaurants and shops where you can get a tasty lunch. You can also bring a packed lunch if you prefer. We’ll also take a morning and afternoon coffee break of 15 mins.
- Where: Jesmond Therapy Centre 7 Holly Avenue West, Jesmond, Newcastle Upon Tyne NE2 2AR www.jesmondtherapycentre.co.uk Tel: +44 (0)191 281 2167 For full details and a map, click here.
- Directions & Parking: Jesmond Therapy Centre is close to local public transport routes, located between two central metro stations which are about 10 minutes walk from the venue (Jesmond and West Jesmond), with excellent local bus services and free on street parking too. If you are coming by train, the venue is about 15 taxi ride from Newcastle station (or you can transfer onto the metro). However, be sure to check train services the night before travelling as as engineering works can disrupt weekend services and you may need to allow extra time for your journey. For full details and a map, click here.
- How to book: click here to book
- How Many Women: In order to create an intimate and safe atmosphere, the workshop is restricted to 12 women only.
- Who is the Reignite Weekend for? Women of any age, partnered or solo, who wanted to have children and for some reason, it didn’t work out. If you’re keen to move forward and create a meaningful and fulfilling life without biological children, it’s for you.
- What is the cancellation policy? Your £125 deposit is non refundable. If you cancel prior to 7th March you may request a refund of any payments made (minus your deposit). After that date, we can only refund your payments (minus your deposit) if we can resell your spot.
- Any other questions please contact Melanie directly: firstname.lastname@example.org. Alternatively, you can contact GWs Community Manager, Helen: email@example.com or Jody herself on firstname.lastname@example.org
Some feedback from women who’ve taken part in previous Reignite Weekends:
It was such a supportive and brilliant course – so great to meet and share time with other Gateway Women, and it allowed me to challenge myself and see my way forward to my Plan B. (Tilly, 48)
I can’t describe the massively positive effect finding GW and attending a Reignite Weekend has had on my outlook, my life, my relationships, my ability to smile at babies and their mums again! (Kate, 43)
After getting to a very low point I thought I’d try the workshop. It was a great weekend. Just having the chance to think and explore my feelings with likeminded people was so helpful. (Leila, 39)
The course was excellent; well structured, clear and relevant and which helped me to understand the trauma I’ve been struggling though after finding out that we can’t have children. I met some amazing women on the course whose stories of facing difficulties with so much dignity and courage will stay with me. Thank you for giving me hope. (Janet, 47)
I attended the Reignite Weekend and I wholeheartedly recommend it. If you are feeling unsure about whether to go, I would say definitely do it. You will be in safe hands and in a very safe environment, sharing with other Gateway Women really helps and the exercises really get you thinking – in a good way. (Laura, 42)
I have been stuck in grief for a long time that hasn’t been shifting. [The weekend] helped me to understand exactly what I was feeling and why. Home now – I feel lighter, more positive and more gentle inside than I have felt for ages (Becky, 52)
It was amazing to realise I wasn’t alone, other women shared the pain, anguish, fear that I did, each with their unique story and each wanting their life to move on, but not sure how or where. I took the plunge and signed up for the workshop not knowing what to expect, or if it “was my sort of thing” – and it was the best thing I could have done. (Kristian, 42)
I attended this weekend with some ‘butterflies’ but it’s ended up being one of the best things I could have done. I’m more equipped than before I attended the event for moving on and getting to grips with my plan B. Best thing though was meeting the other Gateway Women and seeing I’m not alone… (Faye, 41)